The romance of starting a new school year is fizzling. We’ve been here before. Reality is settling in and we’re remembering how rugged the road ahead is for heroes on a learning journey. It’s already making us a little tired and we’ve started dreading the days when all we can muster is: “How was your …
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We often contrast Acton Academy’s “Learn to Learn; Learn to Do and Learn to Be” goals with the “Learn to Know” approach favored by traditional schools. Recently I realized our view of traditional schools is incomplete. The full mantra is more accurately stated as: “Learn to Know; Learn to Obey.” In most traditional environments young …
A Simpler Model Is Not Always Best by Jeff Sandefer Read More »
From the time I found out I was pregnant to this exact moment, I’ve wondered what I’m supposed to be doing as a parent. And as much as I love motherhood, there is nothing in the world that scares me so much. What if I do it all wrong? What have I missed? Do I …
Lesson #3: Heroic parents respond with gratitude when their children are held accountable for their choices. It’s not that they are happy about it. It’s that they know their children will be better off in the long run if they learn to deal with mistakes, problems and failures now when the stakes are relatively low. …
Choosing a hero’s journey as my parenting strategy changes everything. I don’t have to be an expert, a psychologist or a super mom. I just have to say yes to the adventure each day, seek mentors and guides, face the ordeals as they come with courage and get back up when I fail. And I …
Heroes aren’t perfect. They don’t have superpowers. Heroes are ordinary people who do extraordinary things because they refuse to quit, blame others or lash out when things get hard. This is as true for parents as it is children. Rather than seeing parenting as a style or type, we see the experience of being parents …
No Perfect Parenting – from the Ordinary to the Heroic Read More »
In this journey toward becoming Socratic, there are only two more steps. Step 4: Learn to be kind and tough. At Acton, we use the terms “warm-hearted” and “tough-minded” to describe the character of a Socratic Guide. It’s not enough to show empathy and affection. Nor is it effective to weigh too heavily on holding boundaries and …
The third step to becoming Socratic sounds complicated and a bit bizarre. Here it is: CREATE AN ATTRACTIVE GAME AND INVITE PLAYERS. What does this have to do with being Socratic? Imagine this: Your child wakes up and jumps out of bed. She runs to log into her computer to get her next clue. She’s …
Clarity begins settling in with Step Two. Step 2. SET THE CONTRACT: Define your role as Socratic Guide and add structure. (Tips: give choices; don’t answer questions; give growth mindset praise instead nagging. Be warm-hearted AND tough-minded.) Here is a sample script to help you envision how this plays out: Sit with your children and say, …
As we take on this new reality of doing school from home, Jeff and I believe a path to finding more joy and less frustration as a parent is to become more Socratic with our children. As promised in my last post which described what it means to be Socratic and the five steps to …
WANT TO BE MORE SOCRATIC AT HOME? HERE IS STEP ONE Read More »
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